cont from (part 2)
His father shock his head ruefully. It’s more than just a boring movie, Olise. It’s your word and Peace’s feelings, her entire evening and probably more than that.
“Dad, you’re making a big deal out of it. If I got stood up, I wouldn’t lose sleep over it. “
“You’re not a girl. It’s different with a boy.” he paused. “When did Peace ask you?”
“Two or three weeks ago “
“Do you ask girls out that much in advance?”
“Olise shook his head.
No, because it’s no big deal, as you said. But with a girl like Peace, it’s a big deal. She’s planned this. Maybe it’s her first date. She probably bought a dress for tonight. She’s probably planned this thing for weeks, even before she asked you. She probably fixed her hair special. She has probably talked this over with her friends. She’s proud and honored that you accepted, and all her friend will know that. They will also know you didn’t show up.
“With a boy it’s different. He takes a shower, combs his hair wet, puts on the same suit, walks out of the door and doesn’t really think about the evening until it’s started. if he’s ever stood up, he might let off a little steam, his friends might talk with him in the room, and then he forgets the whole thing. unless it’s to joke about it later”.
Olise’s father bowed his head down and was silent for a moment, and then he continued in his soft voice: “This wasn’t just a boring movie for Peace I know. you have two older sisters. I’ve watched them get ready. I’ve watched them wait and fret, and then I’ve seen them when they were heartbroken “.
He looked up at Olise and asked, “how would you feel if someone did to your sister Yvonne what you have done to Peace? “
“She doesn’t even date. “
“She will. ” he paused. How would you feel? he persisted.
“Would it be no big deal? it would be a big deal to me. “
Olise knew he was wrong. He had known it all during the football match he and Smart had decided to go see. “Alright”, he conceded, “I’ll apologize on Monday. Will that make you happy? “
His father leaned back in his chair. “Olise, you didn’t stand me up. Peace is the one you need to consider, her and brother and Sister Inyang. They’ve all been anxious. Are you going to make them wait and wonder till Monday? “
“You don’t expects me to go there tomorrow? “
You told her you would be there. “
“But Dad, it’s almost midnight. They’ll all be in bed”.
“I doubt it. With her hair fixed, her new dress ready, her parents and family expectant, excited to greet this young man their daughter and sister has asked out. No, she won’t be in bed. She won’t be ready to go to the movies, but sleep won’t come easy tonight, not for any of them. do you think it’s fair for you to go to bed and sleep and leave them hanging, not knowing why? “
“But dad, not tonight”, Olise pleaded. His father took a deep breathe and began to speak: “I knew a boy once who stood up a girl. He was a senior, like you. She was a junior. it was a pool party for all freshers. She asked him to go, and he accepted reluctantly. “First of all he felt quiet superiority to the girl. He was a young writer and popular. She was shy and little homely. Her complexion wasn’t good. She wore braces and glasses. For two weeks he thought of how he might get out of his commitment.
Well, the evening of the pool party he had a cold. Nothing serious, he had gone to school, but he rationalized that he was sick to a pool party.
“Half an hour before the date, he called and cancelled the date. he tried to sound sick, but she wasn’t fooled, even though she did accept his excuse graciously he went to bed to at least give his excuses a resemblance of a truth. But he didn’t sleep. He had lied, and he knew it; he knew that there were some girls who could have asked him and he would have made the date regardless.
At ten o’clock that evening, he got out of bed and went over and apologized to her. I know for a fact that it was the most difficult thing to do. I also know for a fact that he never regretted it.
to be continued….Cheers